The Fundamentals of Gender Dynamics

Initial attraction

What is the relationship between a man and a woman? How do they form and why do they stay together? Why do they fall out?

Relationships start when attraction leads to the desire to procreate. Committing to reproduce reveals physical attraction.

Choosing monogamy shows:

A) The man sees the woman as a capable mother who can provide for their children physically and in character. Cooking is important.

B) The woman sees the man as a strong father who can bring home resources. Being competent and reliable is key.

Nowadays, resources mean money. A man’s value is based on his ability to make money.

Rich men change broke women’s lives, but rich women won’t look at broke men.

Men prioritize looks, women prioritize resources. Looks matter to men, while women care about what a man does for a living.

Commitment

Love is not unconditional. It exists as long as the agreed-upon terms and conditions of a relationship are met. These terms may include physical attraction, abilities as a provider or caregiver, and other factors that contribute to the success of the relationship. Falling in love is often based on our perception of the person, and it takes time and experience to truly understand who they are as a partner.

Polygamy is historically rooted in the principle of hypergamy, usually practiced by men who marry multiple women. This is because women, due to their biological role in reproduction, have higher stakes in choosing a partner. Men, on the other hand, face less risk in terms of reproductive responsibilities. To address this imbalance, enforced monogamy, often seen in the form of marriage, has been introduced to create stability and security for both parties.

In modern society, we often take for granted the structures and institutions that govern our lives. However, these systems were created and enforced for a reason – to serve a greater purpose and maintain order. The concept of enforced monogamy stems from the idea of institutionalized monogamy, such as marriage, which has been instilled in various religious and cultural practices worldwide. It serves as a solution to the issues that arise from unrestricted polygamy, highlighting how it provides stability and addresses the challenges faced by individuals and societies.

In today’s society, the concept of monogamy is deeply ingrained. It is seen as a way to establish commitment, trust, and emotional intimacy within a relationship. Monogamy provides a framework for partners to build a life together, share responsibilities, and support each other.

However, it is crucial to acknowledge that relationships are complex and can face challenges. The initial attraction and excitement that bring two people together may evolve and change over time. This is where open and honest communication becomes crucial. Addressing concerns and working together to maintain the connection can help sustain a fulfilling and lasting relationship.

Ultimately, the success of any relationship depends on the individuals involved. It requires ongoing effort, understanding, and a genuine desire to nurture the bond. By recognizing our own needs, priorities, and the realities of human nature, we can navigate the intricate landscape of love and relationships with greater understanding and compassion.

Final message

When you hear this, it feels familiar, true, and embedded in the male and female dynamic. In high school, girls are attracted to the popular jocks, while guys have to level up to compete. Women are less concerned with male promiscuity, unlike men with female promiscuity. It’s about social validation and the female stamp of approval. Walking alone, you go unnoticed, but with a woman by your side, you gain attention. This approval signifies you’re not a psycho. We’ll explore marriage later, but let’s focus on understanding the mechanics of relationships. If you’re struggling in dating, upgrade yourself, re-enter, and assess the feedback intentionally.